Just a thought #8

“Listen carefully to what people are not saying, while analyzing your excessive analyzing in life.
Rather tell them how much they matter to you, not because they won’t be here one day, but because they are here now, with their present silence and their tacit deeds.”


Silence is the most powerful scream

“Does not everything depend on our interpretation of the silence around us?” 

I would like to talk about one thing, that most of the people doesn’t really use even though they should and it might be very useful for them. I am talking about the power of silence.

There are more than one kind of silence. Either the one while you are romantically staring into each others eyes and there’s no need for speaking, or the one while you are waiting for a text or whatever and no response is coming – “no message is also a message” – kind of silence, or it’s just the silence during some movie, while you are sitting with other 50 people in one theater trying to concentrate on the action.

But now, I wanted to go through the most important kind of silence (at least for me) – the one while you know it’s okay for you to just stop and listen to the sweet and smooth sound of quietness. If you wanna know, it is entirely possible to listen to it, but most of people don’t do that. They just think it’s not doable, not interested in it and rather forget all of it because they don’t really have “time”.

It is interesting to just turn the whole world off, listen to the sound of sunset, crawling down on the blue sky, prepared to sleep, just a second before the dawn. It is even more interesting when you wake up at the morning and you can listen to the quiet house, the soft sound of loneliness and summer in the air. What in my case, is always a good thing.

For example, I experienced something similar this weekend while I was at a cottage. I was sitting in a circle around the fire with my friends, while sipping wine, I completely shut my brain off and simply stared to the fire for like 3 minutes or so. I made a bubble in my head, bubble made of silence, I didn’t hear them laughing and talking, I didn’t hear the music, I didn’t hear the dogs barking. It was just me and the fire, my personal shutting off system which made me so calm and relaxed you can’t even imagine.

The thing you’ll find in the silence is not the real silence at all, maybe a mixture of so so many sounds, let’s say a cacophony of noises in one well constructed melody. It all gets balanced after you cancel it out entirely.
Then you realize, that the real silence is not an absence of something important, it is just a gentle presence of something that you really need. Maybe you do not realize it now, because it is a “little by little” kind of progress, but still – Where there’s will, there’s path.


silent sunset


Possible thoughts after you speak or not speak at all


There are times when I leave social situations feeling like I’ve talked too much in a group of people, or I was too loud, too sarcastic, or saying something with a lack of empathy. Maybe it was caused by not thinking before speaking…it is individual, but realizing all of that when it is just too late.

Sometimes I am leaving while wishing I’ve said more nice things or maybe having a more positive attitude wouldn’t be a waste too. It was always a mystery for me, how do other people speak fluidly or tell their stories so gracefully? I consider myself being messy, hungry, actually swearing a lot, but most of the times starting my sentences without knowing where the hell they’ll end.

Sometimes I’m thinking that time and silence are two most luxurious things. At one point,it is better to be silent at some situations, even though it is not in your true nature. Anyway, you are going to learn it all on your way through life, while growing up, enlightened from your mistakes.
And time? Sometimes the best friend but also a worst enemy. It really depends on the individual sight of a person. But you already know all of that.

Like always.

Because every word has consequences. Every silence too.

So, keep that on mind.


P.s: Thinking about it all while watching this, even more confusing for me.

possible thoughts


The moment of silence

“If there were a little more silence, if we all kept quiet…maybe we could understand something.”

brick wall

Silence. Sitting. Thinking.
If you are scared of what’s gonna come next, don’t be. Allow the scare to lead you to unexplored places of your mind. Because this is bravery, to go to the place which is unknown for you. Let your mind and heart lead the way to those places where the weather is changeable  and anything can happen. But still, don’t waste your time with regretting of you going there. That’s your own path towards the place you have always wanted to visit. Do it because you want to and need to at the same time. The place is not gonna be the same as the other places in this world. If you feel that you are gonna fuck up and it really happens, just close your eyes, breathe deeply and simply go back, retrace your steps and start again with knowing exactly which action was wrong. Don’t just waste you time staring at the brick wall like an idiot, because maybe you were born for this exact silent moment. Don’t waste it.